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Yes.

October 3, 2007

And yes again.

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This biggest laugh I have received from a 6 year old recently

September 24, 2007

is when I told her that I took ballet classes as a young man. Gender stereotyping starts way too early.

Observing

April 29, 2007

I am extremely shy. Shy enough so that I am often mistaken for being arrogant (even though I am not). Surprisingly, a large part of my job is to perform in front of large groups of people—I am good at that part of the job.

But being shy means that I am awkward around people. I rarely approach anyone new. And when someone approaches me, I tense up, involuntarily. Today we went to a kid’s party, where I watched L. interact with other kids. She is shy, but unlike me, she is good at interacting. It was neat for me to watch. She found a group to play with by simply asking kids to play with her. When she could not join one group, she calmly looked for another. Much less awkward than me.

I could never do that.

I wonder how I can help her with social skills. I don’t know what to do myself, so how can I tell her what to do?

I took the photo outside my office yesterday

April 8, 2007

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Nothing much insightful to add except how happy seeing the bird made me feel.

Using data

March 14, 2007

This post: Omegamom-Metal-Night got me thinking about music from those days. And I remembered one of big shows I went to see as a young adult—Van Halen

Jamie’s Cryin by Van Halen (youtube)

I had a broken toe, and was extremely drunk/stoned at the show. All I remember now about it is how my toe throbbed with each bass note (I was wearing steel toed boots to protect myself) and how I thought that the lead singer David Lee Roth was the devil. The entire thing was not my smartest move.

I would be shocked if L went in such a state to see a show, because then I might predict bad things for her future. But I did see such a show in that state and showed poor judgement at the time. It did not really lead to any bad things happen to me in the long run—at least no more than normal. Probably luck, but it’s a delicate thing to decipher.

My experience is data. I want to use those data to partially help predict her future and help her make good decisions. But how can I do so? It seems like an impossible task sometimes: The environment has changed in unknown ways, and she is a completely different person than me in so many ways. There is also ‘survivorship bias’ to worry about in deciphering my experiences, and the experiences of others. We need large samples of people, but even that cannot really help us with survivorship bias.

All that being said, it was a stupid decision, and I don’t think that guy is the devil anymore, either.

(update: wordpress won’t let me embed a youtube video today.)

Marketingspeak: a successful (?) example

March 12, 2007

‘Daylight savings time’ versus ‘daylight shifting time.’

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Flow

March 4, 2007

I am a worrier. I worry about stuff that has happened. I worry about stuff that will happen. But more dangerously, I worry about things that might happen. Even ones I cannot predict.

When I am engaged with a task that requires concentration or physical exertion, then the worrying stops since I am concentrating on the short term outcomes.

My wife is much less of a worrier than I, and just lives. How can I achieve that?